Step Back and Breathe

Sometimes we tend to think so far ahead, that we have forgotten to enjoy our bittersweet ride. There is a saying that goes something like, it is not the destination that matters most, it is the journey. I tell this to many people but I realised that I am not practising what I preached. That, I find myself, in some ways a hypocrite.

I tend to worry a lot. Sometimes, even of the slightest thing. Some things bother me so much that I think about it for weeks that can go up to months or even years. I am not sure if this is a good or bad thing to do, but it definitely affects me in many different ways.

One of those things that I worry about is the feeling of not being valued. I realised that I seek attention from those significant others in my life, when I feel that I am not being valued. This is not a good news because most times, when you seek attention, people either draw further away from you or give you a different kind of attention that may not be the kind that you are seeking for. When this happens after repeated number of times, it creates negative energy and aura that worsen the relationships with our significant others.

Nevertheless, I don't think it is wise either to sweep everything under the carpet and pretend that everything is okay. Issues should be addressed and be resolved. But sometimes, you need to know when and how to get your message across. It is not good enough to let others know how you feel but also to put yourself in others' shoes and understand how they feel. I learned that listening is more important that just hearing. I learned that sometimes, when things get too complicated, it is wiser to take a step back and breathe. Only then, we realise that even with the thorns, there is still beauty in the flowers along our journey.